What is your ultimate goal in life? Some may answer to be successful in their careers, or to marry their one great love, or perhaps to be a billionaire. These are real life aspirations, but what’s their common denominator? All of these desires could potentially make us happy about our lives. While happiness seems to be an abstract concept, it is something that people aims for. After all, who doesn’t want to be happy? I know none. It is happiness that makes us appreciate life more.
But really, where do we find happiness? How can we achieve it? The answer is crucial, as you yourself have to make your own happiness. Here are some lessons on how to be happier with your life:
No bad thing can happen with smiling. Smile at your husband, smile at your kids. Smile at the grumpy old lady in the neighborhood, smile at the coffee barista. Smile at the homeless guy in the subway, smile at the little girl rushing to catch her school bus. Smile at your boss, smile at the elevator lady. Just smile. It will make a difference in your mood, and will definitely turn someone’s bad day around.
Have you ever felt so sluggish after finishing a bag of chips and a can of soda? Or you feel overfull after that steak you had for dinner? Yes, what we eat affects our mood. When we feel guilty about the amount of sugar, or cholesterol content of what we took in, we generally feel bad about eating them. If we feel happy about our eating habits, our mood generally improves as well.
Exercising releases serotonin, our body’s very own happy hormone. When you exercise you feel healthy, happy, and invincible. It also takes your mind off of negative thoughts. Release those sweat, and you’ll be in for a happier and healthier life.
4.Sing. Or Dance.
The point is, do whatever it is that frees your soul – be it singing, dancing, writing, running, whatever. Just do it! Your passion is what will give you the ultimate life satisfaction.
When we are crowded with negative thoughts, we tend to take for granted the things that we have. We forget the things (and people) that are actually present in our lives, and instead focus on what we don’t and can’t have. What we don’t realize is that when we just open ourselves up to the world that is present, there are a lot of things to be thankful for, and that we actually have a lot more than we realize.
6. Buy happiness.
They say you can’t buy happiness, and I partially agree. But if a cute, cuddly, little Welsh Corgi will make you happy, why not buy one? If you think that enrolling in a weekend spinning class will take your mind off of your stressful workload, why not spend the money for that? If you feel that getting a new pair of shoes will make you more excited to go to work every morning, why deprive yourself of that? As long as you can afford it, go for it. Although money doesn’t necessarily fill in that space void of happiness, it sure can help.
It’s not about escaping life’s struggles, but freeing your mind so you can better face them. Traveling can be an exhilarating experience, an eye opener, and an effective stress buster. It doesn’t have to be a week out of the country in a deserted island. A day or two away from your usual routine could work just as well.
Think about your long term goals, and work for them. Imagine how you would want your life in five, ten, twenty years. You’re maybe the CEO of your own company, or probably doing some volunteer work in Africa, or having a spa date with your teenage daughter, or maybe just sipping green tea in your bedroom veranda on a breezy morning. Whatever it is that you see when you dream of your future, keep your eye on that. You’ll find yourself more motivated and excited to achieve your aspirations. You’ll find yourself working towards a goal that is happiness.
Give until it hurts, they say. But the truth is, you have to give until it no longer hurts because giving already makes you full. A person can only give what he is full of. Fill yourself with happiness, and give some to others.
10. Fake it.
You know the saying, “fake it ‘til you make it”? As trivial as it may sound, it is true. You have to fake happiness, until you trust in yourself that you have it. You have to make yourself believe that you all things are possible, even if most times they aren’t. You have to teach yourself how to be happy until you’re confident enough to make others believe you too.
Now that you have read this list on how to have a happier life, it’s time to take action.